Snoring can have a HUGE impact on your marriage even though it might seem like a “little” annoyance.
Couples have come to me literally on the verge of divorce because of problems which actually began from one partner’s snoring.
And MY own snoring caused problems in our marriage.
Constant snoring that interferes with your sleep will (let’s just be honest) make you cranky and over time can make even the most loving and patient spouse flat-out resentful.
Science shows that insufficient sleep leads to irritability and poor decision-making. That irritability will make it more likely that you fight (even about stupid stuff) and that poor decision-making will make it more likely that the fights escalate (like bringing in a bunch of other upsets instead of trying to calm down and solve the original conflict).
Any consistent wedge between the two of you is a very real danger to your love and relationship, so it really needs to be...
Have you ever had to deal with feeling overwhelmed?
Like, where you literally didn’t know what to do next? Maybe even feeling like you’d never climb out of it?
Overwhelm puts us at our worst. Our worst at work, and our worst at home with our spouse (and if present, children).
Some people wind up lashing out and others withdraw, unable to deal with anyone or anything.
In order to successfully and consistently get out of overwhelm you have to understand how you process the world.
Once you know how you process you can use that information to help tame and bring order to the overwhelm.
Some people are mostly visual, some auditory and other kinesthetic (NB this is a bit of a simplification but good enough for right now).
Visualize everything you need...
Do you ever wonder about the REAL signs that a love is in trouble?
That breaking up is a real risk? Well, you may have heard about the “Four Horsemen of the Apocolypse”; I’m going to talk about the Four Horsemen of Divorce.
Distrust occurs when a partner doesn’t seem to be pulling their weight, acts erratically, and/or doesn’t keep their word. Marriage is, at heart, a partnership, and partners need to rely upon and trust each other. The underlying message is “you’re a risk”.
Deception is actively lying to your partner. For example, not wanting them to know where you are, what you’re doing and/or what you’re spending money on. Some people deceive because they’re sociopaths. Others wind up lying because of their partner’s outsided or even violent reactions. The underlying message is “you’re beneath me” or “I’m afraid of you”.
Disregard is not paying...
Do you wonder why relationships fail, even good ones?
Even GREAT ones, where they partners seem to be made for each other, seem to get along so well?
There are 3 reasons that relationships fail:
Sometimes one or both partners wake up and feel like they don't know the person next to them.
They don't seem to share the same interests, they don't have much fun together, they just don't connect.
Relationships are dynamic: over time we ALL change, and if you don't make a conscious effort to stay "up to date" with each other, to keep the connection alive, you run a very real risk of growing apart.
If you find yourselves having more and more disagreements, arguments or fights (and especially if the same conflict keeps coming up) then you're entering into or already in a power struggle.
Being more interested in having things your way instead of creating agreement, or prioritizing getting your needs met, or being "right" in an...
There are 7 Key Complaints I hear over and over again in my practice. These are the complaints that if not addressed lead to frustration, fighting, pain and ultimatley break-ups and divorce.
Read below to learn what these seven key complaints are and learn some tips to avoid (or if necessary heal) them in your own relationship.
If trust is the foundation which long-term relationships are built on then communication is the glue or mortar which holds them together.
Communication complaints come in many forms ranging from "they're always looking at their phone when we're talking" to "they always interrupt me" to "they don't seem to understand me".
My wife and I have very different communication styles (like many couples) and we had to learn each other's "language" to make it through the challenges we had and get to the good place we're at today.
Without communication it's impossible to deal with, much less solve, any of the other key complaints so the health of your...