Which Marriage Do You Have?

connection partnership sex May 23, 2017

What kind of marriage do you have?

There are three kinds of marriages:

  1. Broken
  2. Functional
  3. Thriving



You've got a broken marriage if there's less fun, trust and love and more fighting, frustration, upset, disappointment, resentment, etc. There's little fun, trust or passion.

Broken marriages result from hoping that your partner and your marriage will magically change, and that invariably leads to things just getting worse.

Most couples wait until their marriage is broken before seeking help, and that's unfortunate because (like a car or house that's been neglected for too long) that's the most difficult time to get things back on tack.



Your marriage is functional if there's nothing exactly "broken" but also nothing that regularly excites or inspires you. You work, do you chores, handle the kids (if you have them), maybe watch a little TV together and occasionally go out to dinner, probably to the same place over and over again.

Functional marriages...

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The Surprising Reason Many Men Leave

In the immortal words of Aretha Franklin... Respect!

To be sure, women need and deserve respect just as much as men. It's also important to understand that the ways men and women seek respect are often a bit different.

The Problem

Despite men "getting more in touch with their feelings" over the past few decades, the fact remains that at a neurochemical level men are driven to achieve, to provide, to build, to fix, and to be respected for this.

When a man's woman is more successful than him and *especially* when she's self-reliant (I'm talking to you lady executives and entrepreneurs!) he can feel insecure, lost in his sense of purpose and place in the relationship.

A man, at a neurochemical level, needs to feel useful and respected.

When a man doesn't feel useful and respected by his partner he'll start acting out, usually by pulling away from the relationship and, ultimately, looking for that respect in the eyes and arms of another woman. As a general rule men don't like drama in...

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7 Second Conflict Cure

Does your relationship feel strained? Do you walk on eggshells afraid at what might trigger a fight?
Are you upset at how much your or your partner blow-up or, coverself, pull away?

You're going to learn a simple, fast technique that I guarnatee will ***10x*** the results of any communication with your partner.


The Danger

"Communication" itself, that is the words we use, will not, CANNOT improve or fix your relationship on thier their own.

Have you ever asked your spouse for something only to have them not follow through?
Have you tried talking with your parter about an upset only to experience a volcanic outburt or icy silence?


The Truth

We can't talk about something potentially upsetting, or make a request of someone, without first having a connection. A connection creates a platform, builds a bridge that lets your words, your requests, your emotions smoothly and safely drive over.

What would happen if you were sitting in your coffee shop and suddenly someone just...

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4 Simple Skills to Stop the Fighting

Have you ever wound up fighting (whether blowing up or pulling away) when all you wanted to do was talk or have something get done?

It's certainly happened to me and, frankly, it ruined every relationship I was in and nearly ruined my marriage.

Thankfully there's solution (and it's actually pretty easy).

These four skills literally saved our marriage and if you seem to wind up in fights then you owe it to yourself, your partner and your marriage to learn these four simple tools to stop the fighting and get what you want.

Fighting is the result of feeling threatened, and we feel threatened when we feel burdoned, accused or disrespected.

These four tools that you'll learn below are easy to remember, easy to use and are the bread and butter of professional negotiators. Let's get started!



Has your partner (or you) ever said "Clean the dishes" or "take care of the yard"? Especially in a tone that *maybe* sounded more like a scolding parent than a loving spouse?


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